Trader Jakes – Issue 881- March 13, 2020
“In God we trust” Page 5
DON’T BE MISTREATED!
IF YOU ARE IN AN ABUSIVE RELATIONSHIP
not have to stay in the situation. There is help! Love is not abu-
sive. If you think you are in love and the person who suppos-
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everything and leave. They will never change. Don’t kid your-
self - Loving has a different meaning. Go to a domestic violence
shelter at the Salvation Army or stay with a friend, but don’t stay
where you are. LEAVE NOW!!! Don’t ever return! Someone else
will love you!
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Oh that You would bless me indeed and
enlarge my territory, that Your hand
would be with me to keep me from evil
that I may not cause pain
The Prayer of Jabez
It is important to understand that if someone touches you sexually
at work, even over your clothing, it is not just sexual harassment—
it is also sexual assault and should be taken seriously. But should
you let "harmless" go crude remarks and sexual innuendos go? No.
If something is making you feel uncomfortable, you should stop it
right then and there before it escalates. Here are steps to help you
protect yourself and your civil rights if you have been or are being
sexually harassed at work.
CONFRONT THE HARASSER
Confront the person sexually harassing you. Look them in the eye
and tell them what they did was inappropriate. Be specific and
blunt—do not worry about being rude: you have a right to be.
TELL THEM TO STOP
The first time someone does something you object to, tell them
"stop!" Say it loud enough for others to hear for extra emphasis.
Never apologize or make excuses for the offender.
DOCUMENT IT OR REPORT IT IMMEDIATELY
Sexual harassment is wrong, illegal and deserves to be addressed.
But if you feel in your best judgment you have handled things in
steps one and two above at least document the date, time, place,
what happened, your action, and the harasser's response. If it ever
happens again to you, or to someone else at work, you will have a
history to refer to.
REPORT IT IMMEDIATELY IF TOUCHING IS INVOLVED
Never let sexual touches or demands for sex go unreported.
Touching in a sexual manner is sexual assault. Document the inci-
dent and immediately report it to management.
Sarah Lawrence College describes sexual assault as: "A sexual
assault has been committed when an individual engages in sexual
activity without the explicit consent of the other individual involved.
Sexual activity is any touching of a sexual or other intimate parts of
a person for the purpose of gratifying sexual desire of either party.
This includes coerced touching of the actor by the victim as well as
the touching of the victim by the actor, whether directly or through
CALL THE POLICE
If you have been sexually assaulted, you have the right to call the
police and report it as a crime. Never let guilt or a desire to protect
your attacker keep you from asserting your rights. You have done
nothing wrong, and someone who gets away with one instance may
continue the harassment which could escalate into a more violation
crime, like rape.
HIRE A LAWYER IF YOU HAVE BEEN HARMED
If you report sexual harassment and as a result, lose your job or are
demoted, you may wish to contact a civil rights attorney. Or, if you
report the incident to management and they do not take appropriate
steps to investigate and stop harassment at work - call an attorney.
Federal laws protect your rights to work in an environment free from
sexual harassment. A good civil rights attorney can advise you if you
have a case and what legal steps to take to sue your harasser or
employer in civil court.
If you are physically injured by an attacker, you should call the police
immediately, and then contact an attorney as soon as possible to
document evidence you may need later to prove your case.
GET HELP AND FIND SUPPORT
Victims often blame themselves in some way, or others may say a
victim was "asking for it." If you have been traumatized, consider
joining a support group or get professional counseling. It helps some
victims feel empowered again if the become proactive in an_ orga-
nization that seeks to end discrimination.
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